The oil is burning!!

Get creative, find a way to do what you want to do amidst all the odds, with creativity and determination,coupled with perseverance and a willingness to start somewhere, anywhere. You can be whoever you want to be, you can design your lifestyle the way you want.

With all of the above mentioned and time, you can make you great, you can reach heights your biggest protagonist never wished for you, afterall these people living the life are human beings like you and myself, the difference between I and them is that I have the inertia to not reach where they are but then I have the potential to surpass them by far.

So you’ve lived the life in the darkness, it was dark, so dark you couldn’t even see yourself, you got comfortable being in the dark because you are smart and you know that nothing in this life is worthy of causing you inner misery, but you weren’t satisfied with being in the dark because you are smart and know that the dark is not where you were created to spend your life in.

The lovely creator put you in the dark because he respects and values you, he knows you’re strong, stronger than you think now and have more than what it takes to find your way out, he put you in the dark because he wills to bless you with a sense of direction and confidence, who else is more directed than a man who found his way to the light from darkness dark as pit?

But wait, how have the men who found the light done so when there are multitudes who die there in the dark for every man who got out?

The answer is the burning lamp….. The burning lamp is the guide that took the man to the promise land, it saved him from tripping on stools and hitting his head on the wall repeatedly.

What is the burning lamp and what makes you know where yours is? The burning lamp is that soft, whispering call in your soul, sending you a message. You can’t decipher it’s message until you calm down and listen very carefully, it is sending you a message to mankind, it’s the gift carried in your soul all the way from the creator. No it’s not yours, it’s for mankind and you’re just an humble messenger.

But I have a little unpleasant news, The oil is burning!! The oil in the lamp is burning, it started burning the moment you got aware of yourself,it started burning when you gave conscience to your existence. That was when the message got ready to be delivered. I wonder if you got ready at that same time o you messenger, if you didn’t, you’d better get on with it now (if you still feel the message within) unless you have become satisfied with the darkness, and who would say you don’t have the right to want to remain in darkness?

But I heard them say the light is better, even a little bit of light, and don’t worry about the journey, the message coupled with bits of creativity, determination, perseverance and the willingness to start somewhere or anywhere will take you through the rough ride.

Ponder about this, we might meet in the light someday, provided that you decide to deliver the message too.

Peace!!

Self-defense guide for Introverts.

Specifically for my introverted brothers, I was an introvert, I am an introvert, and deep inside, I will always be an introvert.

Forget about all the fancy definitions and descriptions of what makes a man an introvert or an extrovert and focus on this; An introvert is someone who would rather be alone or at least be with accomplices of not more than one or two close friends rather than be in a large group of people.

Being an introvert comes with certain advantages and unfortunately certain critical disadvantages, out of which is the tendency to be picked-on or bullied.

Now being picked on might mean different things ranging from being belittled and mocked in school and sometimes workplace to actually being at the receiving end of outright physical aggression.

Now, this doesn’t mean that every introvert goes through this, but with careful observation, I notice that it is more likely the case. As I mentioned earlier, not all introverts get to deal with this and the goal here is to join the list of introverts.

It might seem impossible at first if you’ve spent most of your life being nervous and looking over your shoulders, but if you knew how timid and fearful I used to be, and how bold and convenient I am now you’d be more inclined to believe.

Am I now as rugged and confident as I want to be? No. Am I now not vunerable and invincible? No, and I believe no man alive is invincible and invunerable, not even the leader of the greatest nation in the world.

Without further ado, let me take you through how you can fight for your much needed space and respect.

• Start lifting weights: seriously this is more important than I could stress it here, your body is your communication with the outside world,no matter what you do or who you are, other men consciously or subconsciously judge and weigh you up based on your physical build, you will definitely notice that people will take you more seriously when your arms get bigger. If you’ve been lifting keep it up and if you haven’t,stop reading this article now and start doing push-ups right now,no excuses, if you got time to read this, you got time to take care of your body. You’ll definitely thank yourself when you see results.

Read up on alpha male body language: I believe you’ve read before that humans communicate more with body language than with words, it’s true. You can literally communicate all day with people around you while rarely opening your mouth, there’s a way that you walk,sit or make facial expressions that tell people around you what’s going on in your mind and life. Basically what you want to communicate to guys around you is that you are ready and willing to fight and defend yourself should the need arise.

Note that this doesn’t necessarily mean that you are actually able to defend yourself at this stage (although you really need to) but someone who hasn’t seen you fight before will not know what you’re capable of, his only tip off is your body language. There are tips about getting this right like taking up more space, standing tall and more, I may be making a post about it someday, but basically it is a skill to be mastered and you have to start as soon as possible if you want to get it together.

• Stop being apologetic: there’s a world of difference between being apologetic and apologizing, apologizing is an active form of conflict resolution and it is a very important one, if you have offended or wronged someone and you know, apologize to them as quickly as possible and try to make corrections if the wrongdoing can be undone.

But being apologetic is a kind of mindset and passive way of communicating that you feel sorry without necessarily verbalizing it or the reason for being so sorry. Now everything is wrong with being apologetic, The first thing it displays is weakness and incapacity, it shows your unwillingness to take responsibility for your actions.
And if you’ve really made being apologetic an habit, people around you will hear loudly from your disposition that you don’t feel worthy of being where you are and they will treat you accordingly.

• Learn how to fight and practice: As any sensible person will tell you, avoiding physical fighting is the best thing for you if you but know, but sometimes you just have to do it, period, there are assholes who won’t stop until they have stripped you of every honor you may have, with this type of men, you’ve got to understand the language of violence because that’s the only language he speaks.

With this kind of guy, you have two goals to achieve, Firstly, to get away from the encounter with your life and good health and secondly, to make him regret he ever decided to try you while making the onlookers and anyone that’ll get to hear about the fight not wish to ever fight you.

And to be able to do the above two important tasks, you gotta be proficient with your fighting skills, so don’t be lazy, I know it isn’t easy but it’s not as hard as you’re imagining too.

• Become good at what you do: reason for this is very simple, people tend to respect and admire people who are very capable with what they do, whether you’re a college student or your career is underway already, make sure you know your onions. This will help you boost your self confidence too.

Now, this is not to say that more extroverted people don’t get to deal with self defense issues too, but being usually with a group of pals is a great way to avoid this occurrences most of the time, and you, by choosing to roll solo are implying consciously or unconsciously that you’re strong and self sufficient enough,. So be strong and self sufficient as you can be and in the end you will come out better than three pack boys.

Peace!!

My-life Tuesday

As usual It was a fairly uneventful 7 days past,I have discovered that I’m more passive than most guys I know but surprisingly I’m not too far behind in terms of achievements, maybe I just know how to make good use of my short active periods or maybe I’m just a little lucky.

Basically i don’t believe in running around trying to put my hands on everything, I prefer to lay back and take things easy and slow, and I believe it’s best to outsource and delegate most things in your life to others while taking full control of the few things that matter like, Wealth, Health, Lifestyle and women. These are the things I think every man should really put his energy and effort into and master these four areas of his life.

In view of my definite chief aim:”To be able to live my life completely Free from compelling human influences, to wake up in the morning knowing that this day, I do not have to follow anyone’s rules. Being able to act and take all my decisions without having to check-in or take permission from anyone. While maintaining a healthy lifestyle and living standards”. And the goals I’ve set for myself, I was able to take baby steps towards the actualization of my ideal life, but sadly most of the days were spent on activities that add nothing to my mission, this is usually the case for anyone who has a job.

• Financial freedom: for anyone to achieve financial freedom through his own day to day efforts, he has to be spending less than his income. And investing in profitable enterprises if he desires to make the process a little faster.

Through the last seven days, I was able to spend less than my earnings and I kept my myself motivated about realizing this dream.

Though not satisfied with the gap between my expenditure and estimated income, I am still happy that the motion though slow is very much better than backward movement.

• Authority freedom: For me to achieve authority freedom as I define it, I must master a way to offer value in exchange for money,I must own my means of production and I must have sufficient presence and charisma.

Fortunately, I work at a job in a field I intend to start a business in (Architecture and Construction) so it’s a win win for me, the firm I work with pays me while they train me, isn’t that cool?.

I was able to make progress with mastering this career, I got closer on a personal level with my bosses ( who have years of experience in the field). I took valuable notes from our discussions.

I was able to improve my charisma and leadership ability by taking on mini projects on my own, supervising and engaging in it hands on.

As a plus I also started reading a book about mastering yourself and going free from the various tricks society use to put a man in chains.

So I have moved forward with authority freedom and actually improved my chances of making it a reality in my life very soon, I’m excited.

• Great body: This is the area I’m usually more passionate about, I have an amazing shirtless body and it feels good.

My current goal with my body is to increase my size and weight tremendously, sadly I’ve been unable to follow my workout routine due to fever I had to deal with during most of the week, but on Monday I was able to get rolling again, awesome.

This week, I’ll be hitting Authority freedom, Financial freedom and great body hard this week and it’s going to be very productive. Great Body has been the area I have always been motivated to work on (I suspect that it’s because it’s one of the few areas I can work on completely alone without interference or working with anyone)

I’ll be using hitting the other areas (financial and authority freedom too) regardless of my feelings. I’ve read from one of my mentors that success requires dedication not motivation, dedication is showing up and doing what you have to do regardless of how you feel. Meanwhile motivation is relying on your momentary feelings to get shit done.

I’ll leave with this quote from Invictus,I guess.

“Out of the night that covers me, black as the pit from pole to pole;

I thank whatever gods may be for my unconquerable soul;

In the fell clutch of circumstances, I have neither winced nor cried aloud;

Under the bludgeonings of chance, my head is bloodied but unbowed;

Beyond this place of wrath and tears looms but the horrors of the shade;

But the menace of the years finds and shall find me unafraid;

It matters not how strait the gait or how charged with punishment the scroll;

I am the master of my fate,I am the captain of my soul.

Peace!!

Stand!!

Where do you wish you were?, How do you wish it could be?, Chances are, you’re not fully satisfied with where you are at this moment,it’s normal we all are dissatisfied with one thing or the other in our lives. Most of us wish some things would change for the better, good, very good, it shows that we’re alive only the dead doesn’t have hopes and wishes and I honestly would feel uneasy and unsafe the moment I start feeling completely satisfied.

What you don’t want to be doing is running, yes, good chances are, you’re running away in one way or the other. “running from what” you imagine. Running from reality, running from life and most devastating, running from yourself.

It might not be obvious to someone who has not really made a thorough and ruthless self examination, but if you’ve really taken the time to meet yourself, it’ll quickly become evident and clear that you’ve not really been alive for as long as the years of your age. And finding yourself is a journey, a long one at that, but you can speed the process up by taking quiet and alone times, striving to do more than you’ve ever done and reading good books.

Settle and zero your mind, keep yourself grounded, erase from your mind, the illusion that something is under control, nothing is under control,but it’d be good for you to realize that nothing will happen that you can’t withstand,this is the foundation of real confidence.

Introducing; My life Tuesdays.

First of all, I believe, like Bruce Lee that under the sun, there’s but one family. So I don’t believe in nationality, nevertheless I happen to be born Nigerian, dark male.

I had my personality type tested a couple of years ago and discovered that I have the INTP personality (I recommend that you have this MBTI personality test done,if you haven’t). I find it to be accurate and very beneficial.

I’m a very calm and quiet guy, with an admittedly uninviting look that might make you feel I don’t want company (which is true a lot of times).

Since almost no one have and may never get to know what really goes on in my inner world, I have decided to add My-life Tuesdays to my blog schedule,. My-life Tuesdays are articles where I’ll be reviewing my previous week from the last Tuesday, I’ll also be sharing my deepest thoughts, plans, and innermost feelings, both moral, amoral and immoral ones too.

To give an overview of what is going to be looking like (what my thoughts, feelings and actions will most likely be based on) I’ll give you my mission statement;

“To be able to live my life completely Free from compelling human influences, to wake up in the morning knowing that this day, I do not have to follow anyone’s rules. Being able to act and take all my decisions without having to check-in or take permission from anyone. While maintaining a healthy lifestyle and living standards”.

This is my watchword, this is how I want to live this brief life of mine, in freedom and personal liberty, this is my DESTINY.

Looks scary and unattainable, I know, but it’s my destiny and I believe you know what it means when something is someone’s destiny; they are meant to achieve it.

I am demanding this from life. And I believe I’m a fair person and I’m willing to give in return for what I take, to demonstrate this sense of fairness, there are some things I don’t take as priorities and that I don’t require to become happy and would sacrifice to achieve my destiny.

Things that people attach so much value to and take as signs of achievement don’t mean shit to me, big, luxurious houses, several cars, hordes of followers and surbodinates, position of power and authority etc.

I can describe myself as smarter than average, but my track record wouldn’t reflect any smartness as I’ve lived mostly a life of passivity, lots of failure mixed with minor and very few success.

To give you a picture of where I’ve gotten to as at the time of writing this article; I’m 24 year old, I’m in my first year of college, studying Architecture, managed to get a job in my uncle’s Architecture and construction firm with an Architectural draughtsmanship certificate I got from an apprenticeship, earning a little cash on school vacations, I’m currently debt free and plan to remain so for the rest of my life, I have literally no sex life, I’ve done prostitutes a few times. I technically have no girlfriend, mostly because I don’t strongly desire one although I do plan to improve my sex life.

So, in addition to this mission statement of mine, I have a few other goals I wish to share with you in order to make My-life Tuesdays more meaningful, interesting and fun.

1) Financial Freedom– I will have enough money and asset in addition to passive incomes to support my lifestyle so that I will not need to work for money, I’ll have sufficient means to live my lifestyle even if I decide to not physically involve myself in working to earn.

2) Great body– I will be physically fit and healthy, I’ll be muscular,lean and strong and I will be physically vibrant for the largest part of my existence, in addition,I’ll be able to fight to defend myself if push should come to shove, but I will very rarely need to fight because my strength and fighting capacity will be obvious to any man by merely looking at me and this will discourage him from challenging me physically.

3) Authority Freedom-I will have freedom from authority, I will own my means of production, and I won’t be on any man’s payroll.

4)Charm– I will be very lovely and charming, men will wish to be me or at least be my friend, women will want to have me or at least be my acquaintance.

5) Outcome Independence– I will be free from fear, worry and grief, my life will be awesome, regardless of what other people do or say.

6) Sexual Freedom– I will have abundance of sexual options and won’t be lack attractive sexual companions.

7) Loved Ones- I will show love and accommodation to my people, I will be philanthropic and give back to the world.

Here they are, my hopes and dreams, I believe I’ll achieve every single one of these goals, I’m willing to learn, work hard, sacrifice, persevere and do other things that’ll ensure that they become reality while consciously avoiding actions that will likely hinder it’s realization.

Till next Tuesday, have wise days ahead. I will have victorious stories to tell next Tuesday.

Peace!